Titus 1:8
8 But [alla] a lover of
hospitality [philoxenos], a lover of good men [philagathos], sober [sophron], just [dikaios], holy [hosios], temperate [egkrates]; KJV-Interlinear
8 but hospitable, loving what is
good, sensible, just, devout, self-controlled, NASB
In contrast to being
greedy, arrogant, and prejudiced, the leader or Christian person should be
polite, hospitable, and friendly.
He should be a lover of
good, which means he should be one who pursues and maintains the highest
standards of character, especially when dealing with people. Good does not mean rolling over when others
are rude or aggressive. Good means
general politeness as well as fair when dealing with others, and especially
when dealing in matter of law, freedom, patriotism and so forth. Good is the product of truth, and truth
possesses many standards and principles designed to strengthen and support the
perpetuation of the human race.
Sober means temperate,
self-control, poise. You do not fly off
the handle when someone gets under your skin.
You maintain the character of self control.
Just or justice refers
to impartiality and fairness when dealing with matters. It refers to your ability to think with a
clear head, without prejudice, without putting your own interests first or
ahead of others.
Holy refers to your
maintenance of a fellowship relationship with God. Holiness means set apart, sanctified, and
righteous.But this righteousness is not
human righteousness, but Gods righteousness.
The righteousness of monitoring your own sinful or out of fellowship status
and practicing confession with sufficient repetition that you are not
functioning under the control of your sin nature.
Temperate means self
control, self restraint.It is the
strength of maturity which helps you to maintain a steady and stable personality
and character under any set of circumstances.
Both the leader and the
Christian are faced with many situations in life. There will always be situations, things or
people who will expect you to bend the rules to help them. There will always be situations that will
expect you to look the other way.There will
always be situations that will make your choices for sin or bias or self, far
easier than doing the right thing.
And above all, there will
always be situations that will entice you to become rigid in your principles
when you need to be tolerant, understanding, and flexible.
The most difficult thing
in life is to know when principles need to be maintained and when they need to
be loosened.
The immature believer
tends to be rigid when dealing with others, and flexible when maintaining his
own self rule.The mature believer
learns eventually that God does all of the evaluation and disciplining, and we
are only here to provide advice.We do
not carry the whip.